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December 15, 2014
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I try to make sure that Ryan is fully focused on what I am asking her to do. It’s so easy for kids to get distracted but I make sure that nobody else is talking to her and there isn’t a tv on to make her turn her head. If that doesn’t work and she still is flat out ignoring me, then I will walk her through it….sometimes they just need a reminder of what it is their doing, and they need US to be that reminder. Good luck!!
Having my child look me in the eyes and repeat back what I asked her to do usually works for me. This tactic doesn’t allow for the “I don’t remember you asking me to do that” later on when I ask if the task is completed. I also tactfully remind her that I might “not remember” to answer her or “forget” my answer the next time she asks “Can a friend come over?” Two can play at that game!! Consistency and following through are the main keys for me to having my children listen to what I say.
~Wendy
By the way, I love your blog! Very thought provoking and well written, even in the midst of all you are dealing with. Just curious if you live on the MD or VA side of DC? We could be neighbors (well, I know not down-the-street-neighbors, but still close).
~Wendy
Oh! That is HILARIOUS! I have realized I ask my oldest to clean her room and she leaves, I think she does it and I never check up on her…So, then it does not happen. I need to be more purposefully balanced too!!!
I can so relate to that, I often think I need to “Re group” get back on track. Sometimes its just easier to take same ole way out, and yes Not only do I suffer the kids suffer and it really should not be that way. Times are are a changing in my household we ALL need to be held accountable for our actions. Thank you for the reminder that I am not the only one out there dealing with this.
uh. yes. i can relate “just a bit” 🙂
getting on their level and looking in their eyes and consistency are all the BEST ways (but sometimes the hardest things to do!)
Sorry. I had to laugh. I’m glad Ainsley couldn’t hear me laughing. She is incredibly smart trying to distract you from the real issue and out of “concern” for you. LOL (Not unlike some adults I know and live with!)
Funny, the other day I heard myself repeating to Riley, my 3-year old, something that my mom always used to say….”Delayed obedience is disobedience.” (And I swore I would never repeat those little sayings.) I’ve stopped counting to 3 to get her to do something I want. Instead, I tell her that I expect her to do something immediately when asked. I’ve discovered, just as you have, that she will do as I ask if I focus on her and follow through. It’s so hard to slow down, but I’m guessing we’ll be much happier in the long run.
haha Little Rachel does them same thing! I try to follow her eyes around and get in the path to lock eyes. I do the same things though. The “Yes Mommy” phrase or I even have them repeat what I asked them to do. Have you ever read Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel? I really enjoyed her ideas.
Wow Leighann. You hit the nail on the head. I think every child is different on this – my oldest daughter does what I say if I call her from one room to the next or stood on my head in the bathroom shower. I have a son (the middle child – ooooh how I love him) who wouldn’t respond if I told him while sitting in his lap. So, I think I will purpose to be more purposeful with him…and possibly I WILL sit on his lap. For emphasis.