I am so glad it’s Friday. This week has been hard. And Friday makes it feel like the weight will lift a little bit, even if just for 2 days. Natalie is 9. She’s sensitive and struggling. Her little heart is longing for deep friendship and she hasn’t found it this year. She struggled our first year here too and the two friends she bonded with last year aren’t in her class this year. And I guess aren’t playing with her at recess. They’ve moved on.
Little girls can be so fickle.
It breaks my heart as many nights I tuck her in and she tells me of her struggle with loneliness. I totally get it. I love Pittsburgh, I really do. The move has been good for our family but people are so established here – like born and raised and sometimes living next door to their mom, grandma, aunts and uncles (and sometimes in the same house they were born in), so they don’t have much margin for new people. I was the same way in Virginia so there’s no judgment here. None whatsoever.
But my little girl needs a bosom buddy. She needs her Diana.
When she’s home she lashes out at her sister and continually picks and picks until my other sensitive beauty is sad and lonely. It’s becoming a vicious cycle that we’re all sick of. I’ve tried being a disciplinarian and taking things away or making her do chores or practice loving her sister through different activities. But in the end, “hurt people, hurt people.” (not to mention she might be starting to get hormonal… could it be?)
I invited two little girls over today after school, one for Ains and one for Nat. I’m hoping we can establish some bonding that way. I’ve talked strategies for her at recess and tried to figure out things out remotely, but it’s not working. Trips to the guidance counselor aren’t either. So playdates it is. I’m praying too. That God would supply her every need.
In the meantime, someone tell me what to do with a hormonal little girl who struggles with friendships. I wasn’t affected by puberty like this and have no idea what to do with it. Seriously. Someone help a poor mama out!